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January 31[edit]

Obsessive People trying to take my money and kids, i need advice![edit]

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My name is summer and i am 21 years old with 3 children and 5 and a half months pregnant with my 4th. I lived with my grandma my entire life until i was 14 and bounced back and fourth between my mom and dads house to my grandparents house. almost 3 years ago i met this girl who i thought was a great friend (redacted), shes 22 and has the mindset of a 14 year old. This girls mother (redacted) is a complete crazy mental institution/moron all rolled up into one giant mess of a human being. My grandmother recently died a year and a half ago and my friend and her crazy mom told me and my boyfriend that we could move in with them until we found a place of our own. At this point me and my boyfriend where not aware that these people where really lunatics. Not until a year ago when my boyfriends mother died and left him a decent deal of money, these people asked my boyfriend to (BARROW) $6,000 and agreed to pay it back within 90 days. needless to say a year goes by and they still have not paid the amount owed, and when we ask about the money they tell us that the 6,000 was used as our rent. This was not the agreement and now that we are out of money to keep shoveling to these people, they want us to give them every penny of our paycheck down to the last penny. my friends mother (redacted) is obsessed with my daughter redacted and thinks that shes like my daughters grandma or something and (redacted) thinks that shes my daughters godmother or something. (redacted) makes my daughters doctors appointments and does not even ask me and she actually takes my daughter to the doctor without my consent, She also keeps shoving paperwork down my throat for me to sign so she can take my kids to the doctor by herself. Now its tax time and i claimed my kids on my taxes and (redacted) wanted to claim my kids and me this year on her taxes. I do not trust anyone with my taxes or my social security numbers and this woman (redacted) destroyed half of the glass in her kitchen and threw a fit like a 3 year old over me claiming my kids because she wont be collecting my earned income taxes. so now i think this is an unsafe place for me and my kids to live and when my tax money hits the bank i wanna leave the same day. but i dont want these people knowing where me and my kids are moving too. i need some suggestions please and thank you! Xdsummerxd (talk) 04:22, 31 January 2017 (UTC)xdsummerxdXdsummerxd (talk) 04:22, 31 January 2017 (UTC)[reply]

I'm sorry but this is not a general advice bureau. -- Jack of Oz ^{[pleasantries]} 04:59, 31 January 2017 (UTC)[reply]

No, we should not give advice. We may direct her to outfits that may be able to help, e.g.a local advocacy group. Here [1] is one place run but the YMCA in the USA. If they can't help, they might be able to direct toward further assistance. OP, please feel free to ask a new question, making it clear that you are asking about resources on how to deal with potentially abusive households and the safety of children and young mothers. We can't help you directly, but if you give us your general location we can try to help you find people who can help. SemanticMantis (talk) 17:07, 31 January 2017 (UTC)[reply]

Reliability[edit]

Are Wikipedia's standards for reliability unique to Wikipedia, or are they mostly the same for the wider acedemic / journalistic / etc community? Benjamin (talk) 14:42, 31 January 2017 (UTC)[reply]

Reputation for reliability is well known in the world of journalism: different news sources develop such a reputation based on a track record of past performance, and Wikipedia depends heavily on such reputation of the sources it uses. Also important, especially in academia is peer review; that work is vetted by experts in the field in question before being published. Direct, vetted research or original journalistic reporting is known in Wikipedia as a "primary source". Wikipedia skews towards using "secondary sources", which are themselves written from these primary sources, and are important because secondary sources provide context and relevance to raw research or primary journalism. Where such secondary sources are themselves published by reliable publishing houses, especially (but not limited to) academic publishers and University press, then they have a reputation for editorial control and we rely on their reputation. --Jayron 32 14:58, 31 January 2017 (UTC)[reply]
Wikipedia's standards are different because our method of creating articles is different. Other publications can rely on Reputation or peer review as described above, but we cannot, because our editors are anonymous. Therefore, we must insist on verifiability. This policy ties Wikipedia's reliability back to the reliability of our sources.-Arch dude (talk) 02:41, 1 February 2017 (UTC)[reply]