Talk:Bella Ramsey/Archive 1

Archive 1

Official website

Can I suggest this is removed as a hyperlink, as the website has clearly not been updated for at least 6 years. CountdownChloe (talk) 19:01, 17 July 2022 (UTC) --CountdownChloe (talk) 19:01, 17 July 2022 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 15 January 2023

Change she pronouns to them 69.178.59.85 (talk) 05:13, 15 January 2023 (UTC)

 Not done: see above section Cannolis (talk) 05:16, 15 January 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 23 January 2023

Exchange She with Them as they do not like to be gendered, stated in "personal life" 88.90.121.161 (talk) 20:28, 23 January 2023 (UTC)

 Partly done: Changed "she" to "Ramsey" seems safer. Revert if needed. - FlightTime (open channel) 20:33, 23 January 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 24 January 2023

Change pronouns referring to Bella Ramsey from feminine (she/her) to neutral (they/them) to align with their non-binary status. Gabonicman (talk) 03:04, 24 January 2023 (UTC)

This is a repetition of a recent edit request. See the discussion above. –small jars tc 19:00, 25 January 2023 (UTC)

Non-binary

Has anyone looked at the source for the statement that Bella is non-binary? I don't follow actors and actresses that much so I'm just going by what Wikipedia requirements state but shouldn't the source actually state they are non-binary or wouldn't that be a SYNTH/OR issue? Bella may very well be non-binary and may not use gender specific pronouns but we need an independent source that specifically states that. The New York Times article sourced to that statement does not even use non-binary in it from what I read. I don't have an account but I was able to print screen the article and read it. I'm going to search for a better source and leave as is for now. If I can't find anything I will revert the latest edits changing the pronouns in the article and possibly remove the statement until a proper source can be found. Verifiability to an independent secondary source is the key. --ARoseWolf 17:28, 13 January 2023 (UTC)

NBC News

Metro

UK Daily

I would consider these three sources one because they are basically a repeat but they confirm that, in reality, Bella doesn't really care about pronouns. The articles themselves refer to her as a she and that means we should follow the sources. I have reverted the edits changing her pronouns and will add these sources to the non-binary statement to further support that statement. --ARoseWolf 17:42, 13 January 2023 (UTC) Correction: I will not add the Metro source as it is considered generally unreliable per WP:RSN. --ARoseWolf 17:48, 13 January 2023 (UTC)

I would strongly urge you to examine the biases that led you to insist upon exclusively using "she/her" pronouns for this actor when they have stated that they use any pronouns. "I use any pronouns" does not mean "please exclusively use binary pronouns for me." Rather, when someone uses any pronouns alternately, they actually want people to use all of these pronouns. I understand that you want to select one set of pronouns for "clarity". However, the decision to exclusively use the pronouns that correspond to the individual's assigned gender at birth effectively erases this person's trans* identity. The singular pronoun "they" can be used to describe anyone precisely because it is gender-neutral, and thus would not be incorrect to use to describe Bella Ramsey even if they were, in fact, a woman. If one pronoun is used on this page, the correct choice would be "they/them."

Media articles frequently misgender nonbinary people and, in fact, THEIR choice to only use "she/her" pronouns for Bella Ramsey is lazy and incorrect. I don't see why Wikipedia should reproduce an error motivated by lack of care towards nonbinary identities and/or ignorance of the same. Anonymous emu (talk) 02:48, 20 January 2023 (UTC)

Wikipedia uses reliable sources and what they say in those sources. If you disagree with the use of reliable sources then maybe this isn't the right project to be editing. To use pronouns not found in reliable sources when the subject clearly states they don't care what pronouns are used is WP:OR no matter how lazy you may think the reporting is. --ARoseWolf 20:29, 31 January 2023 (UTC)

Two excerpts from a recent GQ magazine interview with Bella Ramsey, published on 13 February 2023:

#1: "In January, she revealed in a New York Times profile that she self-defines as non-binary. (Ramsey says she doesn’t mind what pronouns are used for her, and elected to use she/her for this interview.)"

#2: "Ramsey may not define herself as a woman, but that doesn't mean that playing women isn't a gratifying experience, or is something that makes her uncomfortable. “This is what bothers me more than pronouns: being called a ‘young woman’ or a ‘powerful young woman’, ‘young lady,’ but I'm just not [that],” she says."

1.11.10.69 (talk) 23:24, 19 February 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 21 February 2023

change the "she/her" pronouns to "they/them" pronouns as bella ramsey is non binary. Exploding frogs (talk) 09:44, 21 February 2023 (UTC)

 Not done for now: please establish a consensus for this alteration before using the {{Edit semi-protected}} template. Please take a look at the Pronoun use section above, and feel free to contribute towards establishing a consensus for this change. If a consensus can be found, then please make a new request if another editor does not make the edits required. Thanks. Sideswipe9th (talk) 01:41, 22 February 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 22 February 2023

Bella Ramsey's birthday is September 30, 2003, which I found several references like this: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm8165602/ 136.158.78.197 (talk) 12:30, 22 February 2023 (UTC)

We would need reliable sources; IMDB is mostly user-generated content and not acceptable for this type of material. Sam Kuru (talk) 12:39, 22 February 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 28 February 2023

They use They/Them pronouns (https://www.nytimes.com/2023/01/11/arts/television/bella-ramsey-the-last-of-us.html) 92.1.206.155 (talk) 22:43, 28 February 2023 (UTC)

 Not done: it's not clear what changes you want to be made. Please mention the specific changes in a "change X to Y" format and provide a reliable source if appropriate. M.Bitton (talk) 23:08, 28 February 2023 (UTC)

Pronoun dispute March 6

I have requested a third opinion from one whose judgement I trust -- Deepfriedokra (talk) 22:46, 6 March 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 11 March 2023

I'm personal life paragraph one noted Bella identifies as non-binary. The second paragraph then goes on to gender her. This should be changed.

This: Ramsey describes herself as a Christian, saying that her faith helped her when she was struggling with anorexia nervosa. In 2020, she ran a YouTube channel and related Instagram account called United Hope where she shared her faith.[25][26][27] Ramsey plays the guitar and sings.[28]

Should be changed to: Ramsey describes themself as a Christian, saying that their faith helped them when they were struggling with anorexia nervosa. In 2020, they ran a YouTube channel and related Instagram account called United Hope where they shared their faith.[25][26][27] Ramsey plays the guitar and sings.[28] 92.1.136.166 (talk) 21:28, 11 March 2023 (UTC)

• There is no consensus to make this change yet, but you are welcome to join the ongoing discussion above at #Pronoun use. Levivich (talk) 21:31, 11 March 2023 (UTC)

Bella’s Prounouns

I think the article should be adjusted to respect Bella’s pronouns. He goes by any pronouns but in the article I only see “She”. Seems kind of disrespectful. Annajbalc (talk) 21:01, 17 March 2023 (UTC)

Switching back and forth between different sets of pronouns within the same article is confusing to readers and should be avoided. Rreagan007 (talk) 18:49, 18 March 2023 (UTC)

Bella often elects to use she/her pronouns in interviews so I don’t think it’s a huge issue. 84.70.187.200 (talk) 19:11, 29 March 2023 (UTC)

yea, only cause some people are too dumb to understand “all pronouns” 70.68.88.130 (talk) 19:12, 29 March 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 29 March 2023

Bella goes by all pronouns (he/she/they). Source: New York Times article titled “In ‘The Last of Us’, Bella Ramsey Might Save the World.” Where they say: “I guess my gender has always been very fluid,” she said. “Someone would call me ‘she’ or ‘her’ and I wouldn’t think about it, but I knew that if someone called me ‘he’ it was a bit exciting.” Now, if she sees “nonbinary” as an option on a form, she will tick it. “I’m very much just a person,” she said. “Being gendered isn’t something that I particularly like, but in terms of pronouns, I really couldn’t care less.” 84.70.187.200 (talk) 19:09, 29 March 2023 (UTC)

• No change is requested. Also, please scroll above to see previous discussion. S0091 (talk) 19:13, 29 March 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 8 April 2023

The purpose of my edit request is so that I may alter the pronouns used in the article to refer to the individual in question. Given that Bella Ramsey has recently come out as non-binary I feel that it would be respectful to refer to them by they/them pronouns. However if they have previously stated that they prefer to go by she/her pronouns or if they didn’t specify which pronouns they preferred, then feel free to ignore the request. 78.16.193.79 (talk) 20:19, 8 April 2023 (UTC)

seems Ramsey has not given a preferred pronoun so nothing to be done Cannolis (talk) 21:20, 8 April 2023 (UTC)

Birthdate

There is a lot of discussion if their birthday is the 25th or the 30th september but on an instagram story Bella stated that two of their best friends (Lena Dunham and Luis Felber) got married on her Birthday, and they got married on september 25th. I'd like to change their birthdate but i don't know how to correctly reference this. Can anyone help me? Almaljv (talk) 00:11, 21 May 2023 (UTC)

I suggest you start by reading Wikipedia:Citing sources, Wikipedia's guidelines for how to cite sources. But you should be aware that tweets are usually not considered to be reliable sources, see Wikipedia:RSPTWITTER. Grachester (talk) 00:28, 21 May 2023 (UTC)

Also your inference that Ramsey's birthday is on the 25th is clear original research and cannot be used as a source. Grachester (talk) 00:32, 21 May 2023 (UTC)

Agreed. If Ramsay had said in a social media post something like My birthday is on 25 September, or made a Happy birthday to me post on 25 September that could be acceptable per an unambiguous WP:ABOUTSELF statement. But because the post you're referring to requires interpretation and foreknowledge that Dunham and Felber got married on 25 September, it would be original research to cite it in the article I'm afraid. Sideswipe9th (talk) 01:06, 21 May 2023 (UTC)

Actor or actress?

Should be actress as long as she even partially uses she pronouns from time to time. 2003:F1:4F11:40F2:28F2:27E9:FB50:22F7 (talk) 13:08, 23 January 2023 (UTC)

I disagree, because "actor" is not gender specific, whereas "actress" usually refers specifically to female actors. "Actor" is correct for anyone, regardless of gender. Kelseyem (talk) 02:39, 21 May 2023 (UTC)

Semi-protected edit request on 31 July 2023

I would like to add bella’s real birthday which is September 25th 2003 2A00:23C6:A296:7301:5875:AB99:BC9:63BD (talk) 00:43, 31 July 2023 (UTC)

 Not done: please provide reliable sources that support the change you want to be made. Cannolis (talk) 01:58, 31 July 2023 (UTC)

Pronoun Edit Request

I propose reverting the "They/Them" back to "She/Her" due to the following reasons,

She was nominated for the "Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series", which according to my understanding of English actress means a female actor. And she has stated that it does not cause any harm to do so.

I see this is an heated issue but we must aim to maintain parity on what is an actress. NotPixel (talk) 17:33, 6 August 2023 (UTC)

No. The nomination of Ramsey for the gendered category has drawn some pretty widespread condemnation of the Emmys for this (NME, The Independent, PinkNews). Ramsay has said that they were "uncomfortable" with being defined with either gendered lead award category.

MOS:GENDERID is also very clear here that we use the pronouns and gendered words that the article subject uses. In this case, it is still they/them and the gender neutral term actor. Sideswipe9th (talk) 17:54, 6 August 2023 (UTC)

Extended-confirmed-protected edit request on 11 September 2023

their birthday is september 30th, and it is only listed on here with the month and year 2600:1009:B189:4184:84D3:1B9A:9E4E:2AF3 (talk) 06:12, 11 September 2023 (UTC)

 Not done: please provide reliable sources that support the change you want to be made. Cannolis (talk) 06:29, 11 September 2023 (UTC)

Have they changed their name? Is Isabella their dead name now?

Isabella is a female given name. Since Bella identifies as non-binary, have they changed their name? If so, their new name should be in the article instead of Isabella. 76.65.45.114 (talk) 04:56, 25 November 2023 (UTC)

Bella has not publicly indicated anything of the sort, so there's nothing to change at the moment. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 05:31, 25 November 2023 (UTC)

Extended-confirmed-protected edit request on 15 December 2023

Change Hilda from 2018-Present to 2018-2023 as it has ended. Hyacinthuces (talk) 05:16, 15 December 2023 (UTC)

 Done. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 05:18, 15 December 2023 (UTC)

Pronoun use

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This article should be adjusted to use they/them pronouns, and describe them as an actor instead of an actress. Both are the neutral terms for a gender fluid. Gender neutral is the most appropriate way to address someone unless you personally know the preferences for their gender expression or perception, which for some can change day to day. The neutral term is the most respectful assumption to make simply because it is commonly known that they don’t like being gendered.

(I’m saying this because I don’t know how to make the edit myself, but if I did I would.) But, from what I understand in other subjects or comments is that you need a citation to make a change? I don’t think that applies or is appropriate here and I hope that’s not something that’s a required citation for something that is required for anyone who exists outside of the binary. Bella shouldn’t be singled out for their preferences over something that is pretty much assumed of most celebrities, regardless of whether they are cis or trans. 2604:3D08:4F7A:1000:953D:E643:510E:A0D9 (talk) 00:31, 25 January 2023 (UTC)

Strongly agree. Frankly, acknowledging someone is non-binary and then exclusively gendering them based on how you perceive their gender "for consistency and clarity" is completely unacceptable and fucking insulting. This shit keeps happening for articles about enbies, and it needs to stop. Dfsghjkgfhdg (talk) 21:48, 29 January 2023 (UTC)

I'm in agreement with this as well. I think there is a rough consensus forming around changing this article to use they/them pronouns, when reading all of the contributions since 13 January 2023. Sideswipe9th (talk) 18:45, 31 January 2023 (UTC)

Strongly disagree. You are manufacturing a consensus when multiple uninvolved editors have been following policy and denying the edit requests. If the subject does not express any preference, we use the pronouns most reliable sources use. They/them are not the only pronouns that someone who is nonbinary or gender fluid can use. Ramsey has literally said that she does not care which pronouns people use. It was a direct and explicit quote in a reliable source. IronGargoyle (talk) 20:23, 31 January 2023 (UTC)

IronGargoyle is correct in this matter. If Bella had said "use these pronouns" and it was stated as such in reliable sources then we would have something to move forward with. Bella didn't because Bella doesn't care. Wikipedia relies on what is stated in reliable sources. Changing Bella's pronouns to something other than what is used in reliable sources is WP:OR. We are not guaranteed to be shielded from being offended in life and Wikipedia is not a place to "right great wrongs" through activism or any other means no matter who it is that is offended. We rely on verifiable content as defined in reliable sources and included by consensus through collaboration. --ARoseWolf 20:38, 31 January 2023 (UTC)

Ramsey has also said, in the same interview in the New York Times, that if someone called me 'he' it was a bit exciting and that Being gendered isn’t something that I particularly like.

As for manufacturing a consensus, I'm afraid I don't see it that way. I see multiple editors expressing that we should use gender neutral pronouns in the article. Some through edit requests, and others in the three separate discussion sections. And I see a smaller number of editors disagreeing with using gender neutral pronouns in the article.

With regards to what pronouns reliable sources use, they too seem split. Of the three used in the footnote, The Mary Sue uses both she/her and they/them, The Toronto Star uses they/them exclusively, and UK Daily uses she/her exclusively.

When looking at other recent reliable sources published after the New York Times interview;

• NME, New York Times, BBC, Elle, CNN, The Independent, The Times, Deadline use she/her
• PinkNews, GQ use she/her and they/them
• Nottingham Post, Out Magazine , Gay Times, Them.us, Out, IGN, Joe, News.com.au use they/them
• Today, Deadline, Eonline, USA Today avoid pronoun use entirely

So how would you describe the current usage in other recently published reliable sources? I would lean towards split, with a weak preference towards they/them.

If you believe there is a split, with no consensus between sources, then how should we handle this article? Should we default to she/her? They/them? Should we use she/her, they/them, he/him interchangeably? Or should we take the James Barry solution and follow Bella's preference to avoid being gendered by not using any pronouns in the article? Sideswipe9th (talk) 00:02, 1 February 2023 (UTC)

Again, Ramsey was explicit about not caring about pronouns. Yes, Ramsey said that she doesn't like being gendered, but there are other ways to be gendered besides pronouns and she clearly set pronouns aside as an issue that was not important to her. The list of sources you provided feels very cherry-picked (and misrepresented—a number of the "avoid pronoun" articles actually do use she/her). I searched for "Bella Ramsey" in Google News and nearly every recent article from a major reliable source uses she/her. When we consider what sources are most reliable, we need to consider the potential POV bias that the sources have. Many of the sources that you mention using they/them for Ramsey have a narrower topic focus and could very likely have an editorial bias for increasing the usage of they/them pronouns when other pronouns could equally apply. There's nothing problematic with that editorial goal, but it's not Wikipedia's job to help these publications in their quest to right great wrongs, and the bias does need to be noted. IronGargoyle (talk) 04:02, 1 February 2023 (UTC)

True, there are other ways to be gendered than pronouns. We could be using gendered words like "actress" like we currently do in the lead and infobox, though we do also use "actor" in the Career section. Regardless, as an editor who is familiar with and edits several LGBT+ BLPs, it seems odd that we can recognise here on the talk page that Bella does not want to be gendered, but then consistently gender them as female through pronoun use and some gendered words.

I do not believe the list to be cherry-picked. The two criterion for the search was that it was an article on/about Bella, and that it was published after the NY Times interview on 11 January. If there's any that I've missed, I'd be happy to see them added to the list and reconsider, but as far as I could tell at the time I had covered all of the major RS who have published since that interview.

Of the sources that use they/them exclusively, four are LGBT+ focused publications yes. I don't know if I would consider that biased though, just more specialised in this content area. In the same way that we weigh peer reviewed journal sources higher than media sources in general, we do generally weigh specialised media sources higher than generalised media sources on their specialist subjects. I think we can however do without the claim that sources which use the singular they are on a "quest to right great wrongs", as the tendentious editing essay doesn't really apply to sources and so doesn't really help us with this situation.

As for the avoid pronoun articles being categorised wrong, I can see I made a mistake with Deadline, and maybe E Online which has a single gendered pronoun in it but otherwise seems to avoid pronoun use, but I don't see any pronouns in Today or USA Today that are not in quotations from others. Sideswipe9th (talk) 04:26, 1 February 2023 (UTC)

I think changing actress to actor makes sense because it fits the spirit of Ramsey's discomfort with non-pronoun-gendering. I've made that change. Beyond that though, you are just repeating the same arguments that Ramsey's discomfort with gendering somehow extends to pronouns, when we have it from her directly that it doesn't extend to pronouns.

I appreciate your acknowledgement that you missed some she/her usage in the supposed "avoid pronoun" articles. You missed more. The Today article refers to Ramsey as "she" in the title (!), and USA Today uses "her" and refers to Ramsey as an actress. I think you forgot to strike out E Online, which you admit also used a gendered pronoun. It also should be noted that these are relatively short articles that cover other aspects of the show besides Ramsey. The articles would not be expected to have many pronouns, no matter which pronouns were being used. These repeated errors lead me to have little confidence in the fairness or impartiality of your citation dataset.

The idea that specialized publications should be given more weight in this case is just not true. MOS guidelines on this topic focus on using recent and reliable sources. We are looking for what general usage is. Comparing specialized mass-media sources to peer-reviewed academic sources is misguided. IronGargoyle (talk) 06:47, 1 February 2023 (UTC)

Bella never said, "I do not want to be gendered." The articles very clearly state Bella doesn't care, meaning it doesn't matter. The majority of sources use she/her pronouns so that is what Wikipedia should use until there is evidence presented that Bella wants something different and then we can have that discussion. I would like to add that the "smaller" number of editors you see as opposing the alteration of the pronouns for the moment carry more weight because our arguments are based in policy. Tbh, I'm all for Bella being referred to as she/her, he/him, they/them or any other pronoun if that's what was found in the reliable sources. What we have in sources is the use of she/her and they/them with the only mention of "he" being in reference to it being exciting to be called that. Wikipedia can not make anything to be that is not there. Minimalizing reliable sources in favor of the ones that seemingly support your position and trivializing the policy based arguments of other editors is not the direction we want to go in. Also of note is that some of the IP addresses may be SPA's who are only here to change the pronouns and do not understand how Wikipedia works. They only see what they believe is something wrong and set out to fix it. Wikipedia might be full of inaccuracies and "wrong" information found in reliable sources because Wikipedia is not about supporting any particular version of "truth" except what is reflected in those reliable sources. --ARoseWolf 14:12, 1 February 2023 (UTC)

There is a very ongoing issue on Wikipedia, unfortunately, of cis editors using any excuse they can to come as close to misgendering people as Wikipedia policy will allow, and ignoring both well-known best practices surrounding both names and pronouns and ignoring consensus from other editors to insist on keeping things as close to not acknowledging trans people as they can. I saw something very similar recently with an editor who bent over backwards to insist that it was absolutely fine to say on Kris Jenner's article that she was married to "Bruce Jenner" and insisting that the *consensus* was that he was right despite not being able to produce and evidence of that fact and every single other person on the talk page telling him he was wrong.

It does not promote "clarity and consistency" to insist on using only one set of pronouns for someone who has *clearly and consistently* said they use multiple pronouns. Best practice in the trans community for years has been to vary pronouns when talking about people who use variable pronouns. Far more importantly, the person who started this thread is absolutely right to suggest that it's kinda suspect to choose for "clarity and consistency" to *solely* refer to a non-binary person with multiple pronouns as the pronoun most likely to contribute to them being perceived as a binary gendered person; if we *were* to only use one pronoun for Ramsay (which we really shouldn't), "they" would be far more fairly representative.

Honestly, can someone who knows the technical workings of wikipedia better than me figure out how to kick this up to a higher level of dispute, because it's pretty plain that IronGargoyle has sunk their teeth into the status quo on this and has zero desire to actually consider the argument being presented. QueerAsFolkPunk (talk) 22:32, 13 February 2023 (UTC)

Using pronouns consistently throughout an article makes perfect sense, as it can be confusing to readers if we switch back a forth between them within the same article. And if someone says they are fine with either gendered pronouns or singular they pronouns, then using the gendered pronouns is just the most natural rather than forcing in a singular they. I think this article handles this situation well. I've never heard anyone complain about the Elliot Page article using he/him pronouns throughout the article, even though Page uses both he/him and they/them pronouns. If Bella comes out and says she prefers they/them pronouns, then we can always change the article later. I think the status quo of the article is best, but if you disagree and want to get this article's pronoun use changed, your best option is to start a Wikipedia:Requests for comment. Rreagan007 (talk) 22:52, 13 February 2023 (UTC)

The issue here is that Bella doesn't say what pronouns are best. In fact, Bella might as well have shrugged and said "Whatever". The sources are very clear that Bella doesn't care, does not care. Let that sink in. The painting you are trying to paint is that cis editors on Wikipedia are trying to force something based on their preconceived biases about this person's gender status or lack of one but the real bias and attempted forcing is being done by the supporters of this particular pov edit warring on the article and frequenting this talk page writing walls of text claiming something that isn't true mixed with some things that they simply don't understand. Wikipedia is all about Status Quo until there is a need to change that can be explicitly sourced somewhere else. Wikipedia is a tertiary source meaning it moves extremely slow at changing and must not be the first to state anything. In my spare time, which I have had little of late, I have been an activist for underrepresented groups. I can unequivocally state that Wikipedia is not the place for activism but for reasoned discussions within the framework of the encyclopedia policies. We do not create something that is not already there simply because we know it is socially accepted unless it can be sourced therefore removing our need to know. If you want pronoun changes then present sources where Bella explicitly claims what pronouns to use, or open a RfC as stated (not recommended but is an option), or accept that until sources are presented Wikipedia will go with what is presented in the article (Status Quo). --ARoseWolf 18:16, 14 February 2023 (UTC)

Two excerpts from a recent GQ magazine interview with Bella Ramsey, published on 13 February 2023:

#1: "In January, she revealed in a New York Times profile that she self-defines as non-binary. (Ramsey says she doesn’t mind what pronouns are used for her, and elected to use she/her for this interview.)"

#2: "Ramsey may not define herself as a woman, but that doesn't mean that playing women isn't a gratifying experience, or is something that makes her uncomfortable. “This is what bothers me more than pronouns: being called a ‘young woman’ or a ‘powerful young woman’, ‘young lady,’ but I'm just not [that],” she says."

1.11.10.69 (talk) 23:22, 19 February 2023 (UTC)

It should be "actor" not "actress" because gendered job titles are obsolete these days ("server" not "waiter/waitress", "flight attendant" not "stewardess", "police officer" not "policeman/woman", etc.). "She/her" is better than "they/them" because the subject has expressed a lack of preference, it's what the MSM use (and I certainly think NYTimes gets more weight than Them magazine), and gendered English pronouns are less confusing than singular they. If Ramsey preferred gender-neutral pronouns, then we should certainly use them, but she's said she doesn't care, the best sources use gendered pronouns, and readers will find gendered pronouns easier to read. Levivich (talk) 16:58, 8 March 2023 (UTC)

OK - another new perspective - pronouns - no direct comment on how it is. Need to add something in first screen visible some about - what about in the infobox? - add a bottom line to it for "identifies as"- unknown on my part if Wikipedia will aloo that. - having no idea of her status as I start reading my first thought was either page vandelized, or some with their English very Poor. Humm - They/ them is third person plural this is still only a single human being is being written about. - under that logic - perhap IT is better, but that is de-humanizing. Wfoj3 (talk) 21:40, 2 December 2023 (UTC)

@Wfoj3: They/them is a singular pronoun, not only plural, so it is used correctly here. It is absolutely not better, as Ramsey does not explicitly identify by that pronoun. I don't entirely disagree with the inclusion of pronouns in the infobox, but that would be a discussion for Template talk:Infobox person. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 00:24, 3 December 2023 (UTC)

Totally correct but as the page covers a female actor the terms "she" and "her" can also be freely used. These terms correctly relate to her being a woman as much as "they" and "them" relate to her current feelings on her sexuality or relationship preferences. Colinc1000 (talk) 23:59, 6 January 2024 (UTC)

This article does not cover a "female actor", and their pronouns have absolutely zero relevance to their "sexuality or relationship preferences". – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 00:04, 7 January 2024 (UTC)

Unless the world has skipped into the realms of fantasy, this article is about a female actor who has stated that pronouns of "She" and "Her" are fine in reference to her just as much as using "They" and "Them". I suggest that logic is applied here and people use whatever is proper and comfortable to them. People are not sexless robots and are born with a set of chromosomes that dictate their sex of being either male or female. Whatever it is they feel sexually or spiritually is irrelevant to what they are physically. In reference to the actor being female many would feel uncomfortable at giving reference to the relevant person as "They/Them" as is obvious from the boiling frustration one has experienced from English teachers, professors and older persons on such a touchy subject. Colinc1000 (talk) 02:37, 7 January 2024 (UTC)

Ramsey not "a female actor"; they are non-binary. All pronouns are fine, but, per the edit notice, this article uses they/them for consistency. Their sex assignment (or "what they are physically") could not be less relevant—both to the article and to us personally—and even mentioning it here feels like a gross invasion of privacy.

As far as pronoun usage is concerned, this article abides by Wikipedia's guidelines. If you have a problem with those guidelines, I suggest you take it to WT:MOSBIO. If you have a specific suggestion about this article, I suggest you start a new discussion. And if you would like to discuss or complain about sex and gender generally, I suggest you find a different platform. Many thanks. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 03:06, 7 January 2024 (UTC)

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Bella uses they/them pronouns!

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Can someone please fix this! 76.175.67.164 (talk) 02:34, 24 May 2023 (UTC)

Please cite the source for your statement. The article currently contains three quality sources that disagree. And the GQ interview cited above indicates that Ramsey defaults to "she/her". If the situation has changed, which it might have done, can you give us the superseding source? And, thank you for bringing this to the talk page. Grachester (talk) 02:38, 24 May 2023 (UTC)

Vanity Fair has an article on them. Ruxnor 💬 14:46, 24 May 2023 (UTC)

While the article does state Bella as being nonbinary, it is the author of the article that states Bella uses they/them pronouns. Is this simply a summation by the author because Bella is nonbinary? If I was having a conversation with Bella I would use they/them out of respect, however, I feel we need more than the summation of the author of one article to consider that to be overwhelming. That being said, I am not opposed to changing it if consensus among the community is that Bella's pronouns should be changed due to this one article. The article was from May 23rd of this year and may indicate a shift in Bella's stated preferences from older sources. --ARoseWolf 19:27, 24 May 2023 (UTC)

We should take the Vanity Fair article at face value, that Ramsey is now using they/them. This is supported by this recent article in Pink News. For me, this makes the case that Ramsey is more frequently using they/them and I support changing the article to reflect that. Grachester (talk) 20:14, 24 May 2023 (UTC)

I agree. She/her isn't wrong, according to Ramsey, but the Vanity Fair article makes it clear that Ramsey defaults to they/them, so it's logical that Wikipedia does the same. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 01:38, 27 May 2023 (UTC)

I have updated the article to reflect the new source. I agree, the fact that it's phrased as "more frequently using" in the PinkNews article and "now using they/them pronouns" in Vanity Fair indicates both a recent shift and a clear preference. ForsythiaJo (talk) 21:26, 30 May 2023 (UTC)

I really don't think it's prudent at this point to make a sweeping change to this article to update its pronouns. I get that there's a new article from VF that says Bella now uses they/them pronouns, and that a PinkNews article from last week also says mostly uses they/them pronouns; however, these new sources don't suggest that they consulted Bella in any way on this statement. The last word we've heard from Bella (from an interview [1] [2]) is explicitly: "Being gendered isn’t something that I particularly like, but in terms of pronouns, I really couldn’t care less." I think it's unwise of us to make a big deal by changing these pronouns, when Bella herself isn't making a big deal of it (at least publicly, yet). I think it'd be better to hold off until she confirms this herself.

Moreover, in an interview with GQ, she opted for "she/her", while again saying she didn't really care either way.

(Seems this was also discussed before, at Talk:Bella Ramsey#Pronoun use above) PhotogenicScientist (talk) 17:05, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

I concur. - AquilaFasciata (talk | contribs) 19:50, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

@Hyphenation Expert the edit notice you referred to was created just yesterday, and as a result of this very talk page thread. It can't be treated as the sole justification for reversion. Would you mind self-reverting and discussing the change here? PhotogenicScientist (talk) 20:11, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

The GQ article is from February 2023, and the NBC and NYTimes articles are from January 2023. A lot can change in a few months.

To add to the VanityFair and PinkNews articles there's also an article in Backstage published today, a NME article from 28 May, and a Teen Vogue article published 25 May, all of which exclusively use they/them throughout. With four high quality sources using they/them exclusively now, I think we're at the point where we should change. Sideswipe9th (talk) 20:15, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Also for completeness, on the lower quality end of the reliable sources scale, there's also a BuzzFeed article published today, a GayTimes article from 28 May, and a US Magazine/US Weekly article published 25 May. Sideswipe9th (talk) 20:21, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

With WP:BLPs, it's not always as simple as taking a sampling of reliable sources and using the language they do.

Primarily, the thing that caught my eye was the first sentence of the 'Personal Life' section reading: Ramsey identifies as non-binary and uses they/them pronouns as of May 2023. That at least strikes me as odd to say in wikivoice, considering Bella's own words on the subject state an explicit lack of preference for pronouns. And I have not seen a source since which reports on any change to that preference.

Regarding the use of pronouns as a whole in the article, I think the most relevant guideline is MOS:GENDERID, which says: Refer to any person whose gender might be questioned with gendered words (e.g. pronouns, man/woman/person, waiter/waitress/server) that reflect the person's most recent expressed gender self-identification as reported in the most recent reliable sources, even if it does not match what is most common in sources. This holds for any phase of the person's life, unless they have indicated a preference otherwise. Bella's gender self-identification is clearly "non-binary." Bella's preference on pronouns has been "no preference." More RS using "they/them" does NOT mean that's what Bella prefers. It also does not mean this article should do the same, according to the guideline. PhotogenicScientist (talk) 20:42, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Respectfully, the Vanity Fair article said pretty explicitly The Last of Us breakout, who identifies as nonbinary and now uses they/them pronouns, which fulfils the reflect the person's most recent expressed gender self-identification as reported in the most recent reliable sources part of GENDERID. That other RS have also changed to using them is also a strong indicator for change.

While it is true that in January/February, for the GQ article Ramsey expressed no preference, it seems as though for the more recent Vanity Fair article they have expressed a preference. As an editor who is very familiar with the intricacies of GENDERID (check my edit history for more info if you wish or happy to discuss on my user talk page), I am fully satisfied that the sources from the last week meet the threshold for changing the pronouns used in this article. Sideswipe9th (talk) 20:52, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

I'm still curious why we would take the word of Vanity Fair over the direct, reliably-sourced word of the BLP subject.

Although, are the two really in contradiction? Vanity Fair says Ramsey "now uses they/them pronouns" - stating that those pronouns weren't used before. They don't say Ramsey uses EXCLUSIVELY they/them pronouns. That is compatible with Ramsey's statement that she "uses any pronouns." PhotogenicScientist (talk) 20:57, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Why wouldn't we take the Vanity Fair article at face value? It's listed as generally reliable at RSP, which would put it on the same level of reliability as the GQ article from February. The only major difference, apart from the change in pronouns, is that Vanity Fair seem to be summarising it into their editorial voice, whereas GQ left it to a quotation from Ramsey. What exactly is your objection to the Vanity Fair source here? Sideswipe9th (talk) 21:02, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Even generally-reliable sources can get things wrong. For that reason, no source is above questioning simply by their reputation - the reliability of any source depends on the context in which it's being cited. If Vanity Fair is really saying Bella prefers they/them pronouns (which, reminder, they might not be saying that at all, as I said above), that is in apparent contradiction with what Bella has said regarding pronouns. That's enough to make me question that source in this context. PhotogenicScientist (talk) 21:08, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

(Catching up with discussion since I started typing my previous comment)

With respect, that logic feels like OR — OwenBlacker (he/him; Talk; please {{ping}} me in replies) 21:11, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

That seems like a bit of a stretch to me, especially as there doesn't seem to be anything to suggest that for gender and pronouns Vanity Fair is any less reliable than GQ. Do you have any evidence that Vanity Fair are unreliable, or less reliable, on this specific topic?

If Vanity Fair is really saying Bella prefers they/them pronouns (which, reminder, they might not be saying that at all, as I said above) The Vanity Fair article does say and now uses they/them pronouns (emphasis mine), which is pretty explicit that they (Ramsey) now use those pronouns instead of others. Above you've said these new sources don't suggest that they consulted Bella in any way on this statement, but that doesn't seem to the case. The Vanity Fair article is, in part at least, based on an interview with Ramsey and the article's author David Canfield. Are you really suggesting that Vanity Fair are enforcing their pronoun choice over Ramsey's? Sideswipe9th (talk) 21:23, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Backing up: why are you treating these things like zero-sum games? Vanity Fair doesn't have to be LESS reliable than GQ. Vanity Fair doesn't have to be choosing pronouns OVER Ramsey. It's always possible that different interpretations can co-exist, but you aren't giving off the vibe that you're even willing to consider things that way.

Look, there is clearly a mix of what pronouns are being used for Bella, both by herself and by RS. What we have is a direct quotation from Bella - "in terms of pronouns, I really couldn’t care less" - up against an editorialized description of what pronouns she uses. I'm still leaning toward preferring her own words, in deciding which pronouns to use in this article. And since this article and the sources it cites have previously been using she/her, I don't think this is a sweeping change we should be making. PhotogenicScientist (talk) 21:45, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Backing up: why are you treating these things like zero-sum games? Vanity Fair doesn't have to be LESS reliable than GQ. Because you said Even generally-reliable sources can get things wrong. For that reason, no source is above questioning simply by their reputation - the reliability of any source depends on the context in which it's being cited., which in the context of this discussion is pretty clearly questioning the reliability of Vanity Fair. My reply and question was in response to your questioning of the reliability of Vanity Fair.

The couldn't care less quotation is from the beginning of January, it is now the end of May. For any trans or non-binary person, a lot can change in 5 months with respect to how they wish to present themselves to the world and be referred to. Again I have to ask, why do you think the pronouns that Vanity Fair have stated are, to use your latest words, an editorialized description and not a fair and reasonable summary of something that Ramsey told the article's author during their interview? By saying this is an editorialised description, you are stating that this is something that is the opinion of Vanity Fair and/or the article's author, and not representative of what Ramsey discussed with the interviewer. That's a pretty strong accusation to make against a source. Sideswipe9th (talk) 22:02, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

You yourself said the Vanity Fair perspecitve was written in "their editorial voice." PhotogenicScientist (talk) 22:11, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

I said they summarised it into their editorial voice yes. I did not say they editorialised it. This is no different a practice than what we do to avoid our articles about people being nothing but a collection of quotations. Summarising into a publication's editorial voice and editorialising are two very different things. Sideswipe9th (talk) 22:22, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Yes, this — OwenBlacker (he/him; Talk; please {{ping}} me in replies) 09:03, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

Point taken - I simply meant "editorial description." PhotogenicScientist (talk) 13:02, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

That GQ interview was in February and the other references where they used she/they (rather than they/she or they/them) were in January.

I think it's reasonable to suggest that Ramsey's feelings about their gender are evolving and MOS:GENDERID says we should use the person's most recent expressed gender self-identification as reported in the most recent reliable sources.

Per MOS:GENDERID (and @Sideswipe9th), we should be using they/them until and unless we see otherwise. If we're wrong, we can always change it again. — OwenBlacker (he/him; Talk; please {{ping}} me in replies) 21:10, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

Agreed. In any case, we know for a fact that they/them is correct (even if it's not exclusive) so I'm not sure I understand the strong opposition to adopting it here. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 23:46, 31 May 2023 (UTC)

pinging editors from the previous discussion on pronouns @Levivich @ARoseWolf @Rreagan007 @QueerAsFolkPunk @IronGargoyle @Dfsghjkgfhdg: Does the new Vanity Fair article change anything, regarding the pronouns that should be used for Bella throughout this article? PhotogenicScientist (talk) 13:08, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

Also tagging other editors who have talked about pronouns, mainly either making protected-edit requests or declining them according to to then-prevailing consensus: Anonymous emu, AquilaFasciata, Cannolis, Deepfriedokra, Exploding frogs, Gabonicman, Grachester — OwenBlacker (he/him; Talk; please {{ping}} me in replies) 13:41, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

I'm not so concerned with what pronouns are reflective in the article. What I am concerned about is the process by which this was conducted and the removal of reliable sources which contradict the narrative being presented here or at least offer more insight into the transformation of Bella's position. @Sideswipe mentioned that Vanity Fair shouldn't be treated as less reliable than GQ. I absolutely agree but the latest edit made to the article removed the Toronto Star, UK Daily News and New York Times as reliable sources. Are those sources which attribute statements directly to Bella less reliable than a source with an editorial description in it that wasn't expressly attributed to Bella with quotations? Also, I highly regard the actual words of a subject when documented in reliable sources over an editorial description any way. That's not to say that the pronouns can't or shouldn't change, in fact, I stated above that the pronouns used does not matter so much to me. If consensus is to change it then change it. I am, however, concerned about the questioning of why editors on this page might be opposed to changes being made as if their opposition is inherently in bad faith rather than based on reasoned Wikipedia principles and guidelines on how changes to articles should be made. This is a tactic I see used a lot when someone passionately believes something should change but doesn't really feel they have a strong enough argument to make. I could ask the same question of those adamant about changing the pronouns. Why is it so important that Bella's pronouns change based on one specific article? One source with an editorial description indirectly attributed to Bella somehow supersedes three reliable sources directly quoting Bella because those other articles are five months older? --ARoseWolf 14:56, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

Add to this that my position is probably more in line with @OwenBlacker above. I think the change has been made and it shouldn't be altered without further consensus. I would like to see the three reliable sources that @Hyphenation Expert removed re-added, even if attributed to the current pronouns to give readers more clarity of the transformation of Bella's position. --ARoseWolf 15:52, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

• Not to turn this into a meta-discussion about conduct on Wikipedia, but there's nothing inherently wrong with questioning why other editors are opposed to a change, and accusing the questioner of assuming bad faith and using the question as a "tactic" feels like bad faith in itself. In other words, WP:AAGF.
  To answer your question: it's not just one specific article, it's several; Vanity Fair is just among the most recent. I'm especially struck by this W interview from March, where Ramsey opts for they/them and says that they've only elected to use she/her in recent interviews "because it's easier". For me, the most recent articles from Vanity Fair and Backstage just confirm their pronoun preference. And, as I've said, they/them is factually correct (if not exclusive) so it seems like a logical usage to me. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 15:55, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

  The W interview is a great source, and one I hadn't seen before - thanks for sharing it. Based on that, I think the article using she/her or they/them everywhere could be left to editor consensus at this point. Bella herself says it best, I think: If you want to use ‘they’ you could.

  Though I'll note, that article is much more explicit in saying Bella still uses both sets: Ramsey is nonbinary, and uses “she” or “they.” My own opinion is still that this article should use she, as it has done. But as I said, I think consensus can form either way, and the article would be compliant with policy.

  I also share some of RoseWolf's issues they brought up regarding how this change was implemented, and I think it would behoove us not to remove reliable sources - especially ones that aren't very old, while implying they're definitely outdated. PhotogenicScientist (talk) 16:08, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

  To me, this article is the nail in the coffin. It makes clear that, absent of the inescapable cultural pressure coming from outside, they would default to they/them, and that using she/her is something they do to reduce friction. They're a young professional in a very public-facing occupation, attached to very high-profile media, and in a time where trans people are unrelentingly attacked in the media.

  Further, and maybe most importantly, all of this metaphorical ink that has been spilled in "discussing" the topic on this website has failed to meaningfully question that she/her was taken as the default when the actor themselves explicitly said they had no strong preference. Defaulting in that way is not value-neutral. By continuing to force the article to use she/her instead of the not only gender-neutral but significantly more value-neutral they/them, Wikipedia (and all of the involved editors) are contributing to the difficulties non-binary people face in society, including people like the subject of this article, who has now publicly mentioned in an interview that allowing others to use she/her for them is primarily for ease.

  Instead of continuing to flounder about whether or not a change is justified, ask yourselves if, given what is now known, would you believe they/them to be appropriate in writing the article from scratch, as if the article were just being made. The answer seems clear to me. Dfsghjkgfhdg (talk) 19:38, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

  Very well put; thank you.

  I think it's also worth us remembering that we aren't restricted to a single sentence here. If we want to use the footnote to explain something like many publications used she/her for Ramsey in early 2023^[refs] but as the year progressed it appeared to become clearer that Ramsey prefers they/them^[refs], for example. — OwenBlacker (he/him; Talk; please {{ping}} me in replies) 20:00, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

  You're both reading your own biases into what Bella's said, and taking the pronoun thing way too far imo. Please step back a bit, and try to understand Bella's position without any of your own preconceived notions of gender, pronouns, etc.

  These are the best quotes we have from Bella, from interviews: 1) "Being gendered isn’t something that I particularly like, but in terms of pronouns, I really couldn’t care less.", and 2) "If you want to use ‘they’ you could... A lot of times recently I’ve been saying to use ‘she’ because it’s easier — but why not?" Taken together, I really am NOT getting the feeling from her that she cares one whiff what pronouns people use - she's not bothered by she/her, and she's ok with they/them. To that end, I feel like the last thing this article needs is more content focused exclusively on pronouns. PhotogenicScientist (talk) 20:20, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

  I basically agree with all of the above. Personally, I believe that the aforementioned "cultural pressure" likely does actually play a part—but I'm also aware that this is my own interpretation skewed by my biases (as opposed to explicit statements in sources), so I've tried not to let it influence my comments or edits. I also agree that, at least from their public comments, Ramsey isn't entirely bothered by pronoun usage—so, to that end, I don't think anybody is inherently incorrect in this discussion. But, taking everything into account, I personally believe that they/them is the most accurate for this article at this time. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 00:39, 2 June 2023 (UTC)

  I think that @PhotogenicScientist: sums up what I take away from this discussion. While it may be the case that the W article has a more direct quote, it appears that the author asked specifically "Should I use 'they' as your pronouns?" causing Ramsey to respond the way that she did.

  As for people claiming that "they/them" is more value neutral; I would suggest the idea that using "they/them" as a person's pronouns without someone explicitly stating that's what they prefer is less neutral than using pronouns that more closely align with how they tend to present themselves in keeping with WP:PLA.

  Additionally, (this is just personal preference) I think that most articles that consistently use "they" to refer to a single subject are consistently more difficult to read in a natural way. - AquilaFasciata (talk | contribs) 13:45, 2 June 2023 (UTC)

  Your personal, subjective interpretation of a stranger's gender expression does not make WP:PLA relevant in any way; they/them here is absolutely more value-neutral, and I frankly don't consider that up for argument. Also, your "personal preference" about singular they is, whether you intended it this way or not, a common tactic to deny non-binary people's identity. Regardless of how conscious you are of the matter, the things you're saying and behavior you're proposing others adhere to are just an indication of you being uncomfortable with non-binary identities (to varying degrees). I don't say that as a sleight to you; it's just what it is.

  We're not here to debate the appropriateness of singular they in general (there is no debate to be had), and I'm not entertaining any notion that defaulting to gendered pronouns for a non-binary person is somehow equally or more value-neutral than defaulting to they/them. Either point is absurd, and it's worth pointing out their absurdity. Dfsghjkgfhdg (talk) 00:24, 3 June 2023 (UTC)

I absolutely agree but the latest edit made to the article removed the Toronto Star, UK Daily News and New York Times as reliable sources. Did it? While the major update to the article's pronouns did remove those from the {{efn}}, to me it seemed to be more because they were no longer relevant in the context of which pronouns Ramsey uses, having been superseded by a newer source rather than being unreliable. If there's other content in those articles that could be added to this article, say for example the support that Pedro Pascal has been giving to Ramsey while filming season 1 of The Last of Us, I don't think anyone would object to using those articles for that purpose wherever they support the text we're adding. Sideswipe9th (talk) 16:21, 1 June 2023 (UTC)

It’s all exhausting and pointless. 2600:1017:A110:A491:F936:1583:BE10:766F (talk) 21:41, 6 January 2024 (UTC)

No, it is neither. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 22:52, 6 January 2024 (UTC)

And just to give this discussion some final clarity, the latest cover story from British Vogue:

"I had a lot of anxiety around pronouns. When The Last of Us first came out, I was like, 'Everyone just call me "she" because I look like a "she" to you, so it's fine.' But now I'm able to vocalise it more, being called 'they' is the most truthful thing for me. That's who I am the most."

Emphasis mine. – Rhain ☔ (he/him) 14:42, 13 June 2023 (UTC)

The discussion above is closed. Please do not modify it. Subsequent comments should be made on the appropriate discussion page. No further edits should be made to this discussion.